Today, one of my friends posted this on Facebook. Ordinarily, I would just have shared it with my other friends from there, but this particular photo was in an album. I have found out that sharing one photo from an album sometimes shares the entire collection, and I don’t like that idea, so I saved this photo to my computer and want to comment here.
My comment: First of all introvert and extrovert are not absolutes; they are opposite ends of a continuum. Almost all people have some characteristics of both depending on circumstances. However, it seems that we are in a society that is pushing more toward the practice of constant extroverted behavior in which people have to be socially connected 24-7, electronically if not face to face. The poster above is phrased somewhat unfortunately, because absolutes are not always possible to carry out, but when read as suggestions of ways to deal with the more introverted among us, the suggestions could be helpful. “Introverted” is a word with negative connotations today. There are, however, real advantages to being a person who is comfortable enough with himself to be alone without freaking out. There are jobs which are best done alone rather than as a member of a “team.” Very creative people often require a certain amount of solitude to fulfill potential.
What set me off to comment about this? It was another comment which suggested that following any of these suggestions was like “coddling” a drug addict and implied that this kind of personality was a choice and a negative choice at that. While I realize there is probably an extreme end of the spectrum that needs real help in learning to function at all in or with society, I can’t help but feel that there is room for people who observe and plan carefully before rushing in, who give thoughtful opinions rather than the first tweet out of their head, who value a few good friends and long-lasting friendships, and who regard privacy as a virtue instead of just letting everything “hang out” on public display.